Let’s face it–when it comes to wedding planning, there’s always the primary wedding planner in the relationship and then the one who is either overwhelmed, doesn’t care, or doesn’t know where they fit in! If you’re dealing with a partner who’s not super into the planning aspect for whatever reason, don’t worry! We’re here to help guide you through it!

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Trust us, as seasoned New Jersey wedding planners, we know a thing or two about how to get your partner involved in the planning process! First and foremost, you need to set realistic expectations for yourself. If you have a disinterested/disengaged wedding planning partner, you need to understand that they probably won’t be interested in the little details like colors, fonts, etc. But they will likely care more or have an opinion on the bigger things. Here are some of the top wedding planning tasks you should try to involve your partner in.

Creating A Budget: Let’s talk finances! Setting a realistic budget is a key starting point. Sit down with your partner for an open and honest conversation about your financial expectations and limitations. Remember, this is a team effort! Your partner’s insights and contributions are invaluable in creating a budget that aligns with both your dreams and reality. Transparency is key when it comes to budgeting. Your budget will be the compass guiding your decisions, so get on the same page early in the game.

Choosing A Venue: The venue sets the stage for your big day and your input matters! Think about the atmosphere you both envision – whether it’s a rustic barn, a luxurious ballroom, or a charming garden. Discuss your preferences with your partner and start the search early. Remember, the venue’s location, capacity, and availability are all crucial factors. Make them part of this decision-making process – it’s their day too!

Creating a Preliminary Guest List: The guest list can significantly impact the overall vibe of the celebration. Work with your partner to create a preliminary guest list that includes everyone you both want to invite. Work together to trim it down if needed, keeping in mind that the number of guests affects various aspects, including venue choice and overall cost. Consider the atmosphere you want and be ready to trim the list if needed. Their opinion matters in shaping the guest list.

Choosing Attire: The attire for your partner’s wedding party is a chance to showcase their style. Let them collaborate with their crew on the look they want – whether it’s classic suits or modern tuxedos. Coordinate colors and styles that complement the overall wedding aesthetic. This is a fun part of the planning where they can let their personality shine through. Tell them not to be afraid to get creative!

Selecting Entertainment: Music sets the tone, and choosing the right entertainment is key. Whether they’re into live bands, DJs, or a mix of both, ask your partner for their musical preferences and make decisions together. Your wedding is a celebration of both of you, so make sure the entertainment reflects your joint taste. Don’t forget to consider any special songs that hold sentimental value.

Relax and Enjoy the Process: Amidst all the planning, don’t forget to let them enjoy the process the way they want to. This is a celebration of your love, and it should be a joyful experience. Take moments to appreciate each other and lean on your support system, including your partner and the wedding party. Their role should not be just about tasks; it’s about creating memories and sharing this adventure together. Keep in mind that the most important thing is the love you share – everything else is just the icing on the wedding cake!

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Remind your partner that wedding planning is more than just a checklist – it’s about being active participants in creating a day that reflects both of you. From budget talks to venue choices, attire to entertainment decisions, your collective input matters! Embrace the journey, stay true to your style, and don’t forget to have fun! Of course, if you want a planning BFF throughout it all, you may just need to hire a planner. If that’s the case, contact us! We’re happy to take on this journey with you! Happy Planning!