Weddings are rich with traditions and superstitions, many of which have been passed down through generations. These customs can add a touch of magic and anticipation to your big day. At Well-Dressed Events, we’ve had the pleasure of working with a diverse array of couples, each bringing their own take of traditions and superstitions to their special day.
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So without further ado here are seven classic wedding traditions and superstitions, along with tips on how to modernize them for your special day.
1. “Something Old, Something New, Something Borrowed, Something Blue“
Tradition/Superstition:
This rhyme originates from Victorian England and symbolizes various good luck charms. “Something old” represents continuity, “something new” offers optimism for the future, “something borrowed” symbolizes borrowed happiness, and “something blue” stands for purity, love, and fidelity.
Modern Take:
Personalize this tradition by choosing items that are meaningful to you. “Something old” could be a family heirloom, while “something new” might be a piece of jewelry or a special accessory. “Something borrowed” can come from a happily married friend, and “something blue” can be subtly incorporated into your attire, like blue shoes, blue accessory, or blue mother of the bride dress. Have fun playing around with it, these items can be as traditional or as unique as you wish!
2. Rain on Your Wedding Day
Tradition/Superstition:
Rain on your wedding day is often viewed as a sign of good luck. The belief is that rain symbolizes fertility, cleansing, and a fresh start. In some cultures, it is thought to bring a long-lasting marriage.
Modern Take:
While no one can control the weather, you can embrace the possibility of rain and turn it into a memorable part of your wedding. Consider having stylish umbrellas on hand for you and your guests. Capture the romantic and whimsical side of a rainy day with beautiful photos. And if you’re worried about outdoor plans, have a backup plan in place, like a tent or an indoor venue option.
3. Wearing a Veil
Tradition/Superstition:
Historically, veils were used to protect brides from evil spirits and to symbolize modesty and purity. In Roman times, brides wore red or yellow veils to ward off demons.
Modern Take:
Veils remain a popular bridal accessory, but their significance has evolved. Today, wearing a veil is often a fashion statement rather than a necessity. If a traditional veil doesn’t appeal to you, consider alternatives like a flower crown, bow, or even a stunning hairpiece. The key is to choose something that complements your style and makes you feel beautiful.
4. Seeing Each Other Before the Wedding
Tradition/Superstition:
Traditionally, it is considered bad luck for the bride and groom to see each other before the wedding ceremony. This dates back to arranged marriages, where couples were kept apart to prevent any last-minute changes of heart.
Modern Take:
Many couples now opt for a “first look” before the ceremony. This private moment allows you to share an intimate and emotional time together before the festivities begin. It can also help calm pre-wedding jitters and make for some beautiful, candid photos. If you prefer to stick to tradition, consider writing each other letters to read the morning of the wedding.
5. Wearing White
Tradition/Superstition:
The tradition of wearing a white wedding dress dates back to Queen Victoria’s wedding to Prince Albert in 1840. White symbolizes purity and innocence, and it quickly became a popular choice for brides.
Modern Take:
While white remains the classic choice, many modern brides are opting for dresses in shades of ivory, champagne, blush, or even bold colors. The key is to choose a color that reflects your personality and makes you feel your best. Some brides incorporate colorful accessories or wear a white dress with colorful embroidery or details to add a personal touch while honoring the tradition.
6. Bouquet Toss
Tradition/Superstition:
The bouquet toss dates back to England, where women would try to rip pieces of the bride’s dress and flowers to obtain some of her good fortune. To escape, brides began tossing their bouquet to distract the crowd.
Modern Take:
If the traditional bouquet toss feels outdated or exclusionary, consider alternatives. You could present the bouquet to someone special in your life, like a close friend, sibling, or even a couple celebrating a significant anniversary. Another option is to get rid of the bouquet toss altogether. Instead use your bouquet as a centerpiece at your reception or preserve it and make it into a beautiful piece of art.
7. Wearing Your Engagement Ring on Your Right Ring Finger on Your Wedding Day
Tradition/Superstition:
Some brides choose to wear their engagement ring on their right hand during the wedding ceremony, leaving the left hand free for the wedding band. This practice allows the wedding band to be placed on the traditional finger without interruption.
Modern Take:
This tradition is quite practical and can be easily followed or adapted. Some couples choose to have the engagement ring and wedding band soldered together after the ceremony, symbolizing their unity. Others might wear their engagement ring on the left hand, followed by the wedding band, in a stacking style. The key is to do what feels comfortable and meaningful to you.
To Put A Bow On It!
Weddings are deeply personal, and while traditions add a layer of history and significance, they should also reflect who you are as a couple. Feel free to embrace, adapt, or even create new traditions that resonate with your story. And remember, it’s totally okay if you decide not to include any of these traditions or superstitions into your wedding. After all, your wedding day is a celebration of your unique love, and every detail should be a reflection of that beautiful journey. Whether you need ideas, planning assistance, or just a sprinkle of inspiration, we’ve got your back, contact us and check out our Pinterest! Happy planning!
