You hired a planner. You feel good about it. And then your mom (or cousin or sister-in-law) says something like, “Don’t people just plan their own weddings?” Or worse: “Isn’t that just a waste of money?”
Cue the side-eye.
Why the pushback happens
- Different generation, different expectations
- They think hiring a planner is a waste of money
- They planned their wedding 20 years ago with a paper calendar and a prayer
- They don’t understand how complex modern events have become
- They assume hiring help means you’re not capable
But here’s the truth: hiring a planner isn’t about being incapable. It’s about being smart with your time, energy, and priorities.
What to say when they don’t get it
When someone questions your decision, try:
“This isn’t just about planning—it’s about making sure I actually enjoy the process.”
Or:
“We want support from someone who knows how to guide this from start to finish. That’s not a job I can—or want to—take on alone.”
What we actually do (that they might not realize)
At Well-Dressed Events, we:
- Help you make smart budget decisions
- Manage the full planning timeline
- Coordinate vendors and logistics
- Navigate tricky family dynamics (yep, even this one)
- Create a calm, clear environment for you to make decisions
Real example: A client whose family didn’t get it
One NYC couple came to us because they were getting resistance from parents who didn’t understand the point of hiring help. Halfway through the process, those same parents were praising how smooth everything was—and how little they had to worry about.
TL;DR: You don’t need to convince them. You just need the right support.
You hired us for a reason. And by the time your event rolls around, everyone will see why.
Well-Dressed Events is based in Jersey City, NJ and serves couples across NJ, NYC, the Hudson Valley, and starting in 2026, North Carolina.
Mini FAQ
What if my family wants to take over planning?
We help define roles clearly so you stay in control (without the drama).
How do I explain why I hired a planner?
Focus on your goals: less stress, more time, and a better experience.
Can you deal directly with my family?
Yes. We buffer the stress so you don’t have to.
What if they still don’t get it?
That’s okay. You don’t need to justify smart decisions.
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